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Love at 1st…click?

Posted by Kyle Design on March 2, 2012

At some point or another we’ve all been there…the dreaded “S” word: Single. Sometimes it’s for a short spurt and other times it feels like a long, lonely season in between relationships. The dating scene can be an exciting new adventure in your teens, a fun experience in college, and an expected part of your 20s. But when you’ve hit your 30s and you still haven’t met “the one,” it can start leading to sheer panic as every one of your friends settles down with Mr. Right and some even have baby #2 on the way.

I have a small circle of close-knit girlfriends and oddly, we’ve all settled down later than we expected. It’s down to one girl waiting on an engagement ring and the other – ironically the first of us to get engaged when she was 24 (she broke it off, only to regret it after it was too late – he’s now happily married to someone else) just ended a 2-year relationship that was going nowhere. It’s suddenly become everyone’s top priority (in her mind) to set her up with Mr. Right. Since I have NO prospects for her, I get to be her wing girl as we head out this weekend to see what winners we can meet at a downtown Beer Festival (expectations for quantity of men are high but quality expectations are low. However, compared to the extremely limited pool of eligible bachelors in her region on – according to my awesome but very picky best friend – we’re gonna give it a wholehearted attempt).

Are bars ever really a potential place to find a respectable guy? Where do the majority of people meet their spouse? According to ComScore, the majority (36%) meet them at work (or at school) and only 11% meet them at a bar. When I was single, I loved heading out to the bars with my girlfriends with anticipation of meeting a cute boy that could be a potential boyfriend. But looking back, while several numbers were exchanged over the years only a couple led to actual dates and zero led to relationships. According to ComScore’s study, which was released in July last year, more people meet their spouse through online dating (17%) or through friends and family (26%) than in bars.

How does a single gal in her 30s go about meeting a great guy? Where’s a girl supposed to go if she works, has an active social life involving lots of friends and family, goes to bars, attends church, and participates in online dating and yet still, remains single? Where do those 7% of “others” meet their mate? For me, that “other” wouldn’t be the gym, grocery store or Walmart (although I can’t say I haven’t been hit on at Walmart more times than I’d like). Over the course of my dating career I met most of my boyfriends while driving, either at a red light, sitting in commute traffic, or just cruising down the highway at 80mph. (Trust me, if you’re not looking in those other vehicles you’re missing out on a lot of cute guys/potential hot dates!). But, when it came time to meet my husband, I joined the majority of folks who met their spouse at work.

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To lift my girlfriend’s spirits I’m gonna bring her a little online dating encouragement gift. She’ll get a kick out of it. And while she is already complaining that online dating just isn’t for her, she’s only given match about 5 days. I’m guessing it’s gonna take longer than that, which means she’s got plenty of online dating ahead of her. I only personally know 2 others who have delved into the world of online dating and both of them ended up marrying the person they met. So, if things don’t work out at the Beer Festival this weekend (which, I’m guessing, they won’t) it’ll be back to sending out winks. And who knows, maybe there will be a fairytale ending that all started when she fell in love at first click 😉


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